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I Am Not a Perfect Father

Yesterday was Father’s Day and it is generally a day that most people lavish praise and gifts upon their fathers.  As I scrolled down my Facebook and Twitter feeds I read how everyone had the best fathers in the world. Now I don’t think there is anything wrong with praising our Dads or even saying you have the best Dad in the world because it might very well be true that your Dad is the best Dad in world for you.   With all that being said I have noticed that we place our lives on a pedestal for all to see, not just on social media but when we have conversations. Everyone is trying to one up the other person in the conversation with how great their spouse, children, upbringing, education, school, church, friends, and the list goes on and on. The problem then becomes when people look at our lives they either see through the façade or they see an image of what a good little Christian family we are and how they don’t measure up. Both of these are wrong because it points to ourselves and our own strengths or at least the perceived strength we want others to see.  Why do we do this? Why do we try and put out this picture perfect life as Christians. Paul states in 2 Corinthians we should not exalt ourselves but boast of our weaknesses.  When we exalt ourselves we bring Glory to ourselves and not to our Heavenly Father.  I can fall into this same trap of protecting my image and only letting people see the “good” in my life because I am a pastor and I must act and look a certain way.  Now let me be frank I don’t believe in airing your dirty laundry out every chance you get, but I do believe we need to be authentic with people in our lives.


Habits of Highly Successul Families

Gen 22:22-24

Then the Lord God made the rib He had taken from the man into a woman and brought her to the man.  And the man said: This one, at last, is bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh; this one will be called “woman,” for she was taken from man.  This is why a man leaves his father and mother and bonds with his wife, and they become one flesh

 Family an Endangered Species

The past several weeks at Calvary, Pastor Chuck and I have been preaching on the family and marriage.  Our main focus has been on how to be a biblical and successful family.  We have addressed a lot of topics, given advice, and shared funny stories about parenting and marriage along the way.  Our marriages and families are one of the greatest things God gave us.  He gave us marriage before he gave us the church and the promise of Jesus.  I dare say that marriage and family is important to God, and there are a lot of things that we can do better in these two areas. So I thought I would summarize and pass along some of the things that have stood out to me during this sermon series that we all can do to improve and strengthen our families.


Life Lessons


Last week was the one year anniversary of Eli, my middle son, getting admitted into the PICU at Children’s Hospital.  It brought back a lot of memories good and bad.  As I look back at our family’s life last year it was drastically different in a lot of ways and very similar in others.  For instance, we have an additional family member, our financial outlook is completely changed, and our personal goals in life have been altered.  Change is hard and at times extremely painful, but I can’t help but notice at times how easy it is to settle into the same old routines and problems. Before I go any further with that thought I would like to share with you the experience that changed my life and my family’s life.


Wood Splitting

October is Pastor Appreciation Month.  It is generally the month pastors will receive cards and gifts from members to show how much they love their pastor.  These are all very nice things, and they are valued by pastors, but I know of one gift that pastors love more than anything else.  This gift is when we see people we lead actually being the church.  We love to see people using the gifts God has blessed them with to serve each other and glorify God.  It shows that we are getting through and we are equipping the saints, the very thing that God has called us to do.  It was several weeks ago that I received such a gift.


No Dad You’re Wrong


I had a pretty important theological debate the other day.  It was a bitter sweet moment that left me feeling proud and a little sad at the same time.  This debate didn’t consist of arguments of Calvinism vs. Arminianism, or Darwinism vs. creationism, but who do we give thanks to for our food.  You see this theological debate was between RJ, my three year old, and me.  It started with me trying to teach RJ how to pray over our food while giving thanks to God for all that He has given us.  RJ then proceeded to tell me that we did not need to give thanks to God because I had made dinner and he should thank me.  After a little back and forth, RJ told me that Genesis 1:1 God created the heavens and the earth and that He did not create dinner.  I was finally able to correct RJ that in fact God did make food and dinner and we should give Him thanks.  After I looked back on that moment I was very proud that my son try to debate his point by using scripture as an example, but I was also a little sad that he is just as stubborn as me and he is already beginning to question my authority and knowledge. It was a special moment for me that will I treasure for a long time, but it made me think of how I debate or disagree with others.


Who Are You?

Have you ever been asked the question who are you?  How do you truly answer a question like that?  Every time I think about this question it reminds me of a scene from the movie Anger Management with Jack Nicholson and Adam Sandler.  It’s the scene where Jack asks Adam who are you, and Adam proceeds to answer with his job description. Jack says don’t tell me what you do, tell me who you are. Adam then tells of his hobbies, with Jack saying don’t tell me your past times, tell me who you are.  Adam once again tries to answer the question by saying he is an easy going guy and is nice.  Jack tells Adam I don’t want to know your personality I want to know who you are.  Then Adam proceeds to blow up in anger.


The Fragilness of Life

In light of events that have taken place over the past week, it has made me stop and reflect on a few things in my life, and I would like to share some of those reflections with you.  There have been several national news stories that have grabbed our attention this week alone; from the Boston Marathon Bombing and the Texas Fertilizer Plant explosion.  These events have a few things in common from the type injuries and deaths that they caused, but there is one stark difference, and that one was intentional and the other accidental.  The Boston Marathon Bombing was intentional and meant to cause great pain and suffering along with fear and chaos.  These types of acts are fairly common all around the world but happen infrequently here in the United States.  It is something that we truly are not accustomed to.  The other event has brought about similar casualties, along with fear and chaos into people’s lives, but this event was of pure accident with no motives of evil.  So at times like this it can lead many to question why God would allow such things in the world.  How can an omnipresent and all powerful God allow innocent people to experience such tragedies?  This is a question I have asked myself before and had asked to me numerous times.  To be perfectly honest I do not know why God allows certain things to happen and I will not pretend like I do, but I do know that Scripture holds a few answers for us.



Welcome to the Pastors’ Corner where Pastor Chuck and myself will be taking turns to write and discuss our thoughts, concerns, and views relating to anything and everything.  Our focus as pastors is to equip each and everyone of you who come under our care to fulfill the purpose God created for you.  It is our hope that this blog will be a tool that will help you along the way to find what God wants for you in your life.